Quick Look

Fast talk, excitement, clichés, no pauses, no controversy, lots of smiles. “Hey, check this out!” If this buzz defines “alive,” then the rest of my life may seem boring.

The Tale

Last year on Labor Day, he went to a festival at Party Park. (The name is fictitious, but this is a true story.) He bought his ticket, drove his car to a spot, pitched a tent, partied all weekend, heard twenty bands on three stages. Everybody got high (via various techniques), and had lots of stories and photos and memories to share with friends who didn’t get to go. It was intense! Nitrous oxide in black balloons for $5, food­sharing, weed- and booze‑sharing, story telling by the campfires throughout the night ‑ everybody got fired up.

About four in the morning, he had to relieve himself, and wobbled toward a Porta‑Potty. Blam! His toe slammed into a piece of concrete block half‑buried in the ground. The pain was excruciating. . . but weirdly familiar. Then it hit him: he had actually done the exact same thing the previous year: almost broken his toe – the same toe, the same concrete block – all this pain, exact replay! What’s up with this?

The Tale Wagged

Privately, many folks notice an oddly “Same Old, Same Old” tone to partying, regardless of how the characters, the locale, or the chemicals are varied.

If partying engulfs us, it cripples us. Like the evening news (TV, radio, or print), partying promises novelty and insider tips. But sooner or later, the tragedies and the heart-warmers begin to look and sound similar, less and less important, more and more a sleazy entertainment that, like sugar, gives us the blues.

Entertainment sometimes takes more than it gives.


Maybe, but how do I put this into practice?

On your commute home this evening, pass up the evening news. Or, tonight, just don’t turn on the TV.

These “parties” will do fine without you, and you’ll do fine without the parties. Stay home. Pet the cat slowly. Let something (worry, for example) fall asleep in your silence.

Can be scary, at first, but give quietness a brief try. Wait sixty seconds before answering a text. Sit in the parking lot for two minutes before dashing in to the store.

Try it.

Echoes: What Other Folks have said about Partying


About RayMunn

Husband, father, Zen guy, web designer, film-maker.
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