Name a preference you can chuckle about (say, an ice cream flavor).
Now name another one that you don’t take so lightly (a politician, perhaps, or a religion, ethnicity, or sexual orientation).
What it is about the second one that makes it so serious, probably requiring you to defend it?
When you get to the bottom of a “serious” preference, you’ll experience a remarkable sense of freedom and empowerment. Maybe even peace. Kindness.