Generalizing

Quick Look

No one thing is exactly the same as any other thing. Ever.

A Tale

Categories

Always categorizing, the poor woman has a hard time just being with an individual. When she meets someone new, she scans him for abstractions, theories by which she can classify him.

He says something perplexing; the corners of her mouth turn downward. She asks, “Then you’re a Freudian?” Or later when he has left the table, she asks a mutual (Catholic) acquaintance, “Has he been to confession?” At another time, I remember her saying. “Surely her degree is only an honorary one?”

The Tale Wagged

But guess what? I was doing the exact same thing to her as I watched and listened! She was a “Rohrshach” for me (she was showing me my own obsession with categories and abstractions and theories).

 

Three Specifics

Later, I saw her again. This time, I noticed how grumpy she looked. Actually, the more I looked, the clearer it became that she was hurting, protecting something (her mouth was so . . . disappointed). As I studied her, I was hoping she could work it through. (Specifically, I wondered if she felt trapped with a husband who, maybe, never listened to her.)

And then, right in the middle of another diatribe, she stopped cold, and turned to look at me watching her (but this time I wasn’t theorizing too), stopped in the middle of her sentence, sighed and her shoulders relaxed and she smiled with something that looked like gratitude and she said, “Yuck; what the hell do I know?”

It was interesting!

Coupla links:

Yeah, but how do we put it into practice?

and

Echoes on Non-Generalizing

About RayMunn

Husband, father, Zen guy, web designer, film-maker.
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