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Echoes on Chameleon-ing

There is much difference between imitating a good man and counterfeiting him. Ben Franklin I am I, and you are you. If we meet along the way, it’s beautiful. If not, it can’t be helped. Fritz Perls Gestalt Therapy Verbatim … Continue reading

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Practice Less Chameleon-ing

Do you relate to people in stereo? Do you listen to your inner voice with one “ear,” while paying close attention to what someone else is saying and doing and being? If this doesn’t come naturally to you, experiment with … Continue reading

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Chameleons

Quick Look Do I feel that I must be like another person to gain their credibility, trust or connection? Could another motive be at work? A Tale I was unloading to a friend about an embarrassing faux pas I had … Continue reading

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Listening 104

Quick Look I still don’t know how to listen. A Tale Some stories are woven in below. The Tale Wagged In my first job (English professsor) and my second (pastor), people thought I might have answers to their problems. As they … Continue reading

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Can I Fix You?

Quick Look Sometimes, trying to help others can just be a move to be the alpha male (or female;  women do this too). What’s an alpha? Someone who’s in control. A Tale He called in distress. I listened. Finally, he … Continue reading

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Echo: Can I Fix You?

Fix You, by Coldplay When you try your best, but you don’t succeed When you get what you want, but not what you need When you feel so tired, but you can’t sleep Stuck in reverse And the tears come … Continue reading

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Practicing Listening (104)

Review a conversation you had and see if you can name the kind of listening you did. Did you hear feelings or just facts? Did you experience compassion rising up inside you? Did you want to give advice, take charge … Continue reading

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Boundaries

Quick Look When I have a healthy boundary, I’m open to any outcome — I accept people and events as they are, in the same moment that I’m accepting myself as I am. My well-being simply is not contingent on … Continue reading

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Echo on Boundaries

Don’t give what is special to dogs. Don’t throw your pearls before swine; they’ll trample them under their feet, then turn and tear you to pieces. Jesus, Matthew 7:6

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Practicing Better Boundaries

If you feel imprisoned by a person, a situation, a group, or an idea, walk away, let it go, let it separate from you without judging it or defending yourself. Sometimes, when releasing an outer situation may not be possible … Continue reading

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