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Diversity

Quick Look How many people must we see every day, twenty? (If you include media, thousands?) Since most of them have two eyes and two legs, I secretly hope they are, somehow, mostly like me and that I’m mostly like them. … Continue reading

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Boundaries

Quick Look When I have a healthy boundary, I’m open to any outcome — I accept people and events as they are, in the same moment that I’m accepting myself as I am. My well-being simply is not contingent on … Continue reading

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Practice Diversity

Notice a moment when you’re agitated that someone else is acting . . . different. (You won’t have to look far.  Often, you may notice an accompanying thought that goes something like, “They should . . . .” Or, you may … Continue reading

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Echoes on Diversity

There never were, in the world, two opinions alike, no more than two hairs or two grains: the most universal quality is diversity. Montaigne Neurosis is the inability to tolerate ambiguity. Sigmund Freud If an aborigine were to draft an … Continue reading

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Listening 101: No Fixing

Quick Look If, like me, you’re addicted to fixing folks, but want to become a better listener, try this perspective shift: Just assume they’re gonna stay the same! Or pretend they just cannot hear your advice. Or pretend you haven’t … Continue reading

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Practice Praying

Pray, sure, but do it in your very own private way. If you’re stuck, try this experiment. Bring to mind an event or relationship that is not unfolding as you’d wish.  See if you can imagine good consequences from the … Continue reading

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Echo on Boundaries

Don’t give what is special to dogs. Don’t throw your pearls before swine; they’ll trample them under their feet, then turn and tear you to pieces. Jesus, Matthew 7:6

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Practicing Better Boundaries

If you feel imprisoned by a person, a situation, a group, or an idea, walk away, let it go, let it separate from you without judging it or defending yourself. Sometimes, when releasing an outer situation may not be possible … Continue reading

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