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Listening Like a Good Mom

“It is a joy to be hidden, and disaster not to be found.” D. W. Winnicot, Talking to Parents

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Happy Mother’s Way

Quick Look We’re all looking for Connection of some kind, and the clearest model, if you’re fortunate, is the ordinary (but more and more uncommon) mom. The Tale The little girl looked five years old or so. The woman looked thirty. … Continue reading

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Listening 104

Quick Look I still don’t know how to listen. A Tale Some stories are woven in below. The Tale Wagged In my first job (English professsor) and my second (pastor), people thought I might have answers to their problems. As they … Continue reading

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Can I Fix You?

Quick Look Sometimes, trying to help others can just be a move to be the alpha male (or female;  women do this too). What’s an alpha? Someone who’s in control. A Tale He called in distress. I listened. Finally, he … Continue reading

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Fight! Fight!

Quick Look Conflict is the heart of movies and plays, and (some feel) relationships themselves. Couples sometimes pick fights just to re‑connect. It may be better than repression and denial, but the results are not always energizing; sometimes there’s a … Continue reading

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Practicing Resolution

See if you can view a conflict as a puzzle, an intrigue, an investigation into both your, and the other’s, issue. Try to prepare now; in the midst of conflict, it’s hard to remember how to shift your angle of … Continue reading

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Practicing Listening (104)

Review a conversation you had and see if you can name the kind of listening you did. Did you hear feelings or just facts? Did you experience compassion rising up inside you? Did you want to give advice, take charge … Continue reading

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Echoes on Conflict

Sometimes it’s worse to win a fight than to lose it. Billie Holiday In a fight between you and the world, pick the world. Frank Zappa Real Frank Zappa Book

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Echo on Listening (104)

Here is no place of grace for those who avoid the face, no time to rejoice for those who walk among noise and deny the voice. T. S. Eliot, Ash Wednesday

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Echoes: Listening 101

It’s a rare person who wants to hear what he doesn’t want to hear. Dick Cavett Cavett Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books … Continue reading

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